the concept of virginity
- is heteronormative
- excludes males
- disrespects rape survivors
- objectifies females
- reduces women to how men perceive them sexually
- erases female sexuality
- reinforces oppressive ideals of femininity and masculinity
- in itself, doesn’t even make sense
- reduce sex to male penetration
- weaponize penetration as a depreciation against women
- is outdated
- is used to control the actions of women
- is cissexist
erm ok normally I don’t have opinions but this post is kind of, to be frank, ignorant.
Although valuing virginity is something that is certainly not universal among cultures, it is still present in countless societies. If a society chooses to rear its children as nonsexual beings, (which the Western world does and also almost everyone else, save for a few unique tribes) then the concept of virginity is more often than not used as tool to denote a rite of passage from childhood to adulthood. In these societies that do have a concept of virginity, the first sex act is often used as a ritual of liminality and antistructure where the two people are considered neither children nor fully fledged adults. Albeit, there are some societies which grant the loss of virginity as a perk of the transition from childhood to adulthood. Either way, these societies restrict sexual acts to biologically sexually mature adults. I’m sure most of you would agree that sex ought to be limited to post-pubescent adults rather than toddlers. (See, if you agree with that, then already you attribute some kind of worth or utility to virginity. No offense, but by that standard, you are a hypocrite.)
For example, in the Maasai tribe of Kenya, when boys reach a certain age, they are circumcised as a rite of passage from boyhood to warrior status. After their dingdongs have healed properly, they are seen as fully matured adults and can go forth with whatever sexual endeavors they please (as long as their partner is consenting, they ain’t about rape brah).
Also virginity is used by certain cultures as a part of the marital contract (although some cultures don’t give a hoot about premarital sex, i.e. the Maasai).In many societies, marriage is used as the child to adult rite of passage and the loss of virginity is used as a metonym for marriage. So, virginity is not just something that was originally conceptualized by men to suppress female sexuality, although I am not denying that it can and has been used this way.
Also are we going to ignore the fact that sex has consequences? You can get STDs or idk produce a fudging child. So yeah, maybe you shouldn’t be having sex if you don’t think you would be able to handle those consequences were they to present themselves. Clearly, virginity does have at least some practicality in the health and proper biological and psychological maturation of humans. And actually, completely devaluing virginity in fact devalues those who wish to remain sexually inactive until marriage. Posting something like this could possibly make any virgins reading it feel pressured to make a rash decision and just go have sex with no regard to both the inevitable emotional consequences (believe or not, sex does have an emotional effect on a person, otherwise rape would just be a misdemeanor) and the possible physical consequences as well that could arise.
I’m not trying to argue that conceptualizing virginity is right or wrong. Obviously I don’t agree with honor killings of rape victims, or of anyone who chooses to sleep around, for that matter. Neither do I agree with treating anyone as less of a person based on whether or not they have their virginity. I’m just saying that there is a cultural and biological reason for the concept of virginity and it’s not as monstrous a concept as the original post portrays it to be. I just think that misinformed feminism is ethnocentric and maybe just a lil bigoted (sorry not sorry) to say the least.
Sincerely, an anthropology major at Emory University
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